Our second batch of life-changing news for 2011: Matt and I decided to pursue adoption last September! Several people know and have been so encouraging these last few months, but since it's becoming more and more real, we have decided to make it truly public knowledge.
Adopting has been something I've wanted to do ever since I attended Focus on the Family Institute in 2003. I talked about it with Matt before we were married. He didn't seem to be into the idea, but it wasn't a deal-breaker for me. In Thailand, the idea kept coming up for me again, so we talked about it a little. Matt was still not interested.
As God would have it, he placed us in a Community Group last May with a couple who adopted a beautiful baby girl last January. And I've been having some (female) health issues. Though we still don't know for sure that we'll never be able to have biological children, it seems like a possibility to consider.
We've both longed to be parents ever since we were kids. I think Matthew will make an excellent Daddy. And I'm soooo looking forward to being a Mommy. I asked Matt about a year ago to start praying about adoption. He was still not thrilled with the idea. But as we got to become closer with Mark and Lauren (who just adopted baby Allie), he got to see more how adoption worked. He got to have real conversations with Mark about some of his fears. And God started changing his heart (and mine) in preparation for this journey. :)
On September 5th, Matt said that he was ready to start pursuing adoption. I don't remember the exact words, but it went something like, 'well, we want to have a big family anyway, so we may as well start with adoption.' And, we had just found out that we were going to be an uncle & an aunt. And the thought of giving Baby Peterson a cousin was so very exciting.
We've been having conversations with family & friends ever since then. And we've received mostly positive feedback which is always encouraging considering that Matt and I have been a little gun-shy about big decisions-- based on some of our past experiences.
We're in no rush, which is a good thing with the adoption process. However, even in the last 5 months, God has placed a seed of anticipation in our hearts that grows bigger each week. Daily I find myself praying to be an excellent Mom. I pray for our marriage as it is going to be evolving into a family. No longer will we be husband and wife, but we'll be becoming Daddy and Mommy.
Even when we went to the marriage conference in December, it was great reminders for us about the priority of our marriage currently and also great preparation for some of the challenges we will face when we become parents. It was perfect timing to make sure we were serious about the adoption thing.
We did our initial application in September and went to an informational meeting in November. Currently, we're finalizing the formal application (which is intense!). As long as we have it completed by February 18th (also moving day!), we can move to the next step in the process which is another meeting on February 25th. We will definitely keep this updated and would appreciate your prayers along the way!
We're going to be parents... someday! :)